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About Dr. Lehmiller

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years.

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Why Scary Movies May Make You Hot and Bothered

October 29, 2026 by Noelle Harris

There’s something about a scary movie that makes us want to get a little closer to the person sitting next to us. Maybe you’ve buried your face in a partner’s shoulder as a killer stalks their next victim, or grabbed their thigh when a ghost suddenly lunges into frame. And by the time the credits...

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Why Scary Movies May Make You Hot and Bothered
What Really Keeps Couples From Having Sex
What Really Keeps Couples From Having Sex

October 22, 2026 by Justin Lehmiller

Why do couples sometimes go days, weeks, or even longer without having sex? And when sex doesn’t happen, do men and women tend to explain it differently? While researchers have...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
Locktober: The Psychology Behind the Chastity Challenge
Locktober: The Psychology Behind the Chastity Challenge

October 8, 2026 by Carla Reyes Flores

October is known for changing leaves, cooler weather, and all things spooky. But did you know that another, kinkier tradition has also claimed the month? Emerging from online BDSM forums,...

Kink & BDSM, Media & Culture
How Old You Feel May Shape Your Sexual Satisfaction
How Old You Feel May Shape Your Sexual Satisfaction

September 30, 2026 by Justin Lehmiller

How do our sex lives change as we age? Several studies have explored this question, but most have addressed it through a fairly narrow lens, focusing largely on how physical...

Myth vs Fact, Psychology
Social Media’s Influence On Contraception Use
Social Media’s Influence On Contraception Use

September 23, 2026 by Emily Mendelson

Social media is an increasingly important place where people are socialized about sex and relationships. It can expose people to more expansive understandings of sexual and gender identity, shape attitudes...

Myth vs Fact, Safe Sex
Why Aren’t Orgasms Always Pleasurable?
Why Aren’t Orgasms Always Pleasurable?

September 16, 2026 by Justin Lehmiller

How does it feel to have an orgasm? If you’re like most people, you probably said that it feels pretty darn good. This makes sense because orgasm is a term we...

Myth vs Fact, Sex Q&A
Announcing the 14th Annual SPSP Sexuality Preconference!
Announcing the 14th Annual SPSP Sexuality Preconference!

September 9, 2026 by Emily Mendelson

We are thrilled to announce that the fourteenth annual SPSP Sexuality Pre-Conference will take place in Philadelphia on Thursday, February 11, 2027! We hope you will join us for this...

Psychology
Tell Me What You Want

Tell Me What You Want

Discover what the largest survey of sexual fantasies in America tells us about the erotic mind – and how to have a healthier, hotter sex life.

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Take a deep dive into the psychology of sex and relationships. This is the sex ed you never got in school – and won’t get anywhere else.

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